Hello!

My name is Sandra Gray and I live in the mountains of Arizona.  I live with my husband Ken and our two dogs.  Together we have two sons and three daughters.  My husband and I are avid scuba divers and take advantage of any type of travel for the sport we love!

My Story…  I am well into my 3rd Blended Family.   I survived two Blended Family failures (barely) before taking a break and a long journey into self-discovery and education.   To make sure this marriage was successful, I put into practice everything l had learned from that journey, so I may now speak from experience.  I can honestly say my methods are tried and true, and they work!  Yoo-hoo!!   I am so excited to share everything I learned with you, and prevent you from making similar mistakes! 

Did you know that over 70% of newly Blended Families fail within the first year or two?   It certainly happened to me.  Twice!  Although my vision and mission both times were to create a happy-ever-after blended family who were going to totally rock the blended family thing, the problems crept in and eventually overtook both marriages.  Talk about Operation Train wreck!

I will be honest.  I blamed sabotage (which may or may not have happened), the kids, my husband, the exes, everyone else for the failure of the marriages.  But what about me and my part?  Well, it seems I overlooked that part!  Much, much later I learned that my own mistakes and roles in events had actually contributed far more to the inevitable destruction.   I focused on the wrong things, opened up to the wrong people, and worried constantly about how to fix things.  Unfortunately, I was trying to fix the wrong things!

Sadly, both times instead of being the cool and beloved Stepmom everybody was going to completely adore (my secret dream!), surprise!  Instead, I ended up very much alone and consumed by crushing feelings of shame, confusion, and pain.  Thus began a long, painful journey, filled with years of self-discovery; self-education; traveling to numerous seminars and workshops;  every book and podcast I could find on blended families and self-growth; years of research with other Stepmom’s whose lives had imploded; and the very long, very lonely, intimate and honest nights with just me and Mr. Google.

I now can freely own that I made every single mistake possible!  My mission is to provide you a safe, comfortable, educational and inspirational community, where you can be with like-minded people who may desire varying degrees of support with their Stepmom roles.  If you have no blended family problems and simply want to connect to others in step-parent roles, you are welcome and needed!   

It is now my pleasure, passion, and life’s commitment to help you become truly at peace, feel the love, and begin a new, more successful relationship with your mate!  I invite you to join the newly formed Organic Stepmom Group, a safe, fun, educational, and inspiring new and modern community dedicated to helping you NOT make the same Blended Family mistakes I did!  No matter what type of family you’re trying to create, you will find a home here.   If your Blended family has already crashed and burned, this community will stand by you, help you to heal, learn, and next time you’ll rock it! 

With love and gratitude,

Sandi